The Tenets of Adversity: How Pain is the most valued commodity in life Part 2

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In life, you have people that will come and go. Life is like a car wash and the people are like the dirt that keeps the car unclean. But once the car goes through a car wash, the dirt falls off. Metaphorically, this applies to most people in your life.

Simply, because most people are naturally jealous, insecure, hypocritical and hateful due to the fact that they are lazy by lacking motivation and any form of ambition.

Some people are scared of the internal light that you possess because it highlights their inner darkness. These type of people lack the biological software that can be downloaded into inner faculties of the Mind.

Therefore, most people will be jealous of and/or parasitical to you because of your self awareness, inspiration, motivation and productivity. But to understand this dynamic, one must undergo the Tenets of Adversity.

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Adversity, as I stated before, is the greatest teacher in life. This is because adversity is the ultimate measurement stick to determine not only how strong you are and how far you will go in life, but adversity also teaches you about others and how strong they are and how far they will go in both your and their life.

For instance, in the past I have had so called ‘friends’ in my life of whom I thought always had my best interest at heart. Throughout all the good times, everything went very well. However, these so called ‘friends’ true characters emerged on the scene during the exact moment when things got tense as adverse situations came about. Particularly speaking, I had a male friend of whom shares the same zodiacal sign as me- which is Aries.

We met in college back in 2007. At that time, I was 23 and he was 19 years old. He was exactly 4 years younger than me and his mind somewhat operated on the same frequency as mines. When it comes to research and pure knowledge, the young man was just as passionate and hungry as I was. Therefore, (me being an actual big brother because I’m my mom’s oldest child), I easily took him under my wing as a little brother.

We would sit up all night and decode the ‘system’ for what it truly is, which is nothing more than a matrix grid of smoking mirrors of pure deception. As a result of this, I was very impressed with his advanced outlook on life. However, one of the main things that disturbed me about him was his drinking.

Now don’t get me wrong- whenever he would drink, he still maintained the easy going personality. He wasn’t mean nor obnoxious or anything of that nature. He was typically like most people when they’re drunk, which is loud and very talkative.

Back on April 11, 2008, I strongly remember him getting drunk and eventually vomiting in my brother’s bed. This took place on the exact day of my father’s funeral. This guy was loud and drunk after the festivities but nevertheless, he was still cool.

The thing that always bother me about him was his infatuation with women. We would be in a deep conversation of sorts. But the moment an attractive women come across our path, he would stop our conversation immediately and go directly after her. He had done this on numerous occasions.

However, the thing that became apparent to me is when he gets intoxicated while women are around us. Things usually gets ugly and he becomes a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type of character. Because of this dynamic, I have seen him stalk women and even heard how he almost sexually assaulted a young woman from a mutual friend. This took place during a school’s field trip of sorts. Our mutual friend was an actual witness to this foolishness. As a result of this, I confronted him and ofcourse he denied it altogether.

Moreover, our relationship turned sour when I got a new girlfriend back in January of 2009. During that time, I was going through the most adversity in my life. To this very day, losing my father was the toughest thing I had ever experienced in my life. Therefore, as the friend of whom I thought he was and/or supposed to be, it was common sense to think that he would support me without question.

But on the contrary, the moment I got into a new affectionate relationship is the moment he became seemingly bitter, jealous and practically non-supportive. He would find little things to nit pick back in regards to my love interest.

Moreover, one day he decided to make a pass at my woman. She then called me and told me about it and I told her to record him and let him come over to her house. To make a long story short, suddenly, he fell for the bait and came over. She notified me immediately and I came to her house right away and confronted him.

Consequently, he told me flat out that he was jealous of my new situation. He indicated that my new love interest had interfered with me and his friendship. At that point, I thought he was a homosexual but it turned out that he was as straight as a line. Although I was in an affectionate relationship, I still made time to kick it with him and I even invited him over to my woman’s house on several different occasions.

But the moment things got too tense for my former friend is the moment he had a psychological meltdown and betrayed me. We haven’t spoken really since then. Furthermore, this is just one prime example of how some people (no matter how close they really are to you allegedly) will betray you as soon as the going gets tough. This lesson is now archived in my personal School of Hard Knocks Life’s Lesson Folder that’s locked within the cabinets of my Mind.

Without adversity, there could be no life. Without life, there could be no adversity. Conclusively, as stated highly above in the referenced metaphor, as soon as you go through adversity (life’s car wash), be mindful of the amount of dirt (people) that will fall off. If you are smart, your car (life), won’t ever have the same type of dirt (people) on it again. As a result, you can now drive down the road of life smoothly in your pursuit of happiness.